For everybody who’s stuck.
Navigating through the world of endless possibilities, one choice at a time. Every Monday Wednesday (damn, me and my unorganized planning skills…) I’ll be posting my thoughts about finding out when you’re truly at your best. A string of posts resulting in a complete story (hopefully, bare with me). So without further ado: season 1 of finding your place in the world!

HAPPINESS | 20 April 2016

S01E03 | Celebrate your uniqueness

It’s official: I’m a Youtube addict. I never really was a fan before, but once you dive in you’re lost. You’re on your own, battling the autoplay function where one video is followed by another and another and… You get the point. But those vloggers can say some pretty on point things sometimes. I just watched an old vlog of Ben Brown where he was saying “celebrate your own uniqueness” and all I could think was: yes! Exactly what we should be doing!

Instead of looking up to other people and wanting to do exactly what they do, we should get inspired to create our own stuff. Finding our own voice in the sea of screams. But celebrating your uniqueness does require insight: you have to know what makes you unique. And that is not as easy as it seems. I’ve been me my whole life, I have no idea if my view on the world is different to someone else’s view. And if we even are so different to begin with. That’s why horoscopes are such a huge success: we recognize ourselves in general characteristics. They even did a study where they gave students personal feedback – not knowing everybody received the exact same feedback – and asked them to rate its accuracy from 0 to 5. And guess what: almost everybody found it accurate and gave the ‘personal feedback’ a 4.26.

Do you recognize yourself in it:

– You have a great need for other people to like and admire you.
– You have a tendency to be critical of yourself.
– You have a great deal of unused capacity which you have not turned to your advantage.
– While you have some personality weaknesses, you are generally able to compensate for them.
– Your sexual adjustment has presented problems for you.
– Disciplined and self-controlled outside, you tend to be worrisome and insecure inside.
– At times you have serious doubts as to whether you have made the right decision or done the right thing.
– You prefer a certain amount of change and variety and become dissatisfied when hemmed in by restrictions and limitations.
– You pride yourself as an independent thinker and do not accept others’ statements without satisfactory proof.
– You have found it unwise to be too frank in revealing yourself to others.
– At times you are extroverted, affable, sociable, while at other times you are introverted, wary, reserved.
– Some of your aspirations tend to be pretty unrealistic.
– Security is one of your major goals in life.

Uhh… so far for being unique. But then again: is it even a bad thing? Of course we all want to be unique and add something to the overpopulated and oversaturated world, but being not unique is what connects us. So let’s forget about being unique for a second and salute to being you, me and everyone!

I’m wearing:
COS jacket | Acne jeans
Kozha Numbers bag | Marni sandals