GOALS | 4 April 2016

Want to be relevant in your thirties? Be fucking good at something

For everybody who’s stuck.
Navigating through the world of endless possibilities, one choice at a time. Every Monday I’ll be posting my thoughts about finding out when you’re truly at your best. A string of posts resulting in a complete story (hopefully, bare with me). So without further ado: season 1 of finding your place in the world!

P.S. yes, it’s a season with an official end.
P.P.S. No, I have no idea when it’ll end. It’s the journey that counts guys.

S01E01 | Finding your place while being relevant

Listening to Garence Dore’s podcast is like a long lunch with good friends (just listen to the one with Isabel Marant and Caroline de Maigret to see for yourself). And it’s perfect to get your mind off of you’re sorry state while attempting to work-out. So while running yesterday (attempt number 100…) I was listening to Garance and LA based sister duo Erin and Sarah foster. And I felt completely zen. I was running through fields, the sun was shining and my eyes were getting used to seeing something else than my computer screen. All was good. Until I heard that one sentence: if you want to be relevant in your thirties, you need to be fucking good at something.

It freaked me out. I’m 31. Am I still relevant?? Damn, no idea. Am I fucking good at something?? Like, actually really absolutely good at something? Not sure. And why now: why do you have to be good in your thirties? Isn’t that relevant in your twenties as well? I don’t think there’s a big difference between being 25 and being 31 (at least, when you don’t have kids. Otherwise there’s a huge difference…). But then again: I don’t live in LA and I don’t have to deal with the incredible high standard of LA. Not that it mattered for my zen state of mind: my drill sergeant was back.

As soon as I got home, I made mindmaps, did brainstorms and listened to other people in their thirties. Like a true nerd. And there’s one thing that stuck with me. Remember Casey Neistat? He said in one of his blogs that you spend your twenties figuring it out and your thirties doing it. “I was trying a bunch of things in my twenties and ever since turning thirty the trajectory has been vivid and it’s been full steam ahead.” I feel like I might have played it too safe. I wasn’t all over the place in my twenties, I was pretty focused.

I’m kind of feeling all over the place right now. Am I doing a Benjamin Button??

I’m wearing:
Vince dress | Levi’s jeans (should buy something new for once…)
Mango sunglasses (very old)